Bad experiences at the Apollo and on the street

Yvonne Delaney Mitchell | 6/21/2013, 2:19 p.m.

It must be time for a serious spring cleaning or, at the very least, a makeover.

I was thoroughly humiliated and "dissed" twice in one week, and, to borrow a line from the kids, I didn't even do anything! It all began on Monday evening, when the Apollo Theater hosted its annual spring gala. Honoree Chaka Khan was inducted into the Apollo Legends Hall of Fame to celebrate her 40th anniversary in the music industry. The honor is well deserved. Khan is multi-generational; from "Sweet Thing" to "I Feel for You," she is a stellar performer and has rocked the house throughout the ages. But back to the Apollo...

The customary media alerts were sent out, and I received them. The first alert was to notify the media of time, date and place of the event and the litany of stars who would be attending. The second alert that I received asked for a confirmation of attendance in order for the media to cover the event. Upon receipt, I replied that yes, I would attend.

Fast forward to the night of the event. Imagine my surprise when I arrived at the press entrance only to be ceremoniously denied entrance. But wait! The gentleman at the door was kind enough to go upstairs and check with his superior, as surely there must have been a mistake as to why my name was not on the list. Apologetically, he returned to tell me, sorry, no can do.

Now mind you, I did not request to come to this event. The email requesting confirmation of my attendance was sent to me. OK, so maybe it was sent in error and they didn't really mean to invite me. After all, oversights do happen. However, according to the school of diplomacy and manners from which I graduated, upon receiving my email response the proper thing to do would have been to send a return email that would say something to the effect of, "We're overbooked for the event and, due to space, we cannot accommodate another person." Even an email stating, "The email requiring your confirmation to the event was sent in error. Therefore, we apologetically have to retract the invitation." To have me come out in a torrential rainstorm and then deny my entrance was totally unacceptable and bad manners, to say the least.

To add the icing to this cake, I was not dressed in rubber boots and a fisherman's raincoat. I was dressed to the nines, as it was my way of spicing up the joint. Additionally, I believe that if a hostess goes through the trouble of hosting an event, guests should come dressed appropriately. Meanwhile, another young lady went rushing in past me. She must have represented the Bohemia Times, because she was dressed like a refugee who just got off of the boat. I only imagined looking down to see her wearing flip-flops. Nonetheless, her name was on the list, and she was ushered upstairs. I would love to read her review, as I can't imagine what kind of depth and insight she has to offer about Khan or any of the other performers (like Mary J. Blige and Erykah Badu) but that's another story.