Cosmopolitan Review: November 30 - December 6
Yvonne Delaney Mitchell | 11/30/2017, 2:11 p.m.
Pre-Thanksgiving talk this year centered around Thanksgiving rules. Check to see how many you either violated, witnessed or will think about for the upcoming Christmas celebrations. The rules are listed below:
Don’t take the Tupperware to pack up your food to go before dinner has been served.
Have only one cocktail before dinner.
Leave all of the drama at the door—no talk of politics, no dirty jokes and no dirty language.
Don’t start eating before everyone is seated, especially the hosts unless they say it is OK to start.
Remember to say some sort of grace, no matter how short, even if it’s “Thank you, God, for everything.”
I recall my mother telling me stories of how once all of the food was set on the table and everyone had taken their seats, Granny would begin to say grace, which was so long that by the time she finished, the food had to be taken back into the kitchen and re-heated.
The rule I will make is unless you are specifically asked to bring a dish, resist the urge to do so. Although an appetizer, dessert or beverage is acceptable, never bring anything to add to the main course meal. Even then it’s a good idea to first go over your dish with the hosts. No one wants to have four dishes of string beans and no one has brought the candied yams.
No matter how much you love your mom’s recipe for potato salad laden with onions and heavy on the mustard, the pungent taste might clash with the hosts delicately spiced mashed potatoes. Or heaven forbid you bring your store-bought potato salad and the hosts has slaved hours over the stove boiling and peeling 10 pounds of potatoes to make a homemade salad, and here you come. Should you insist on bringing a main dish when you weren’t asked to, don’t be offended when at the end of the evening, the hosts hand you your dish back, untouched because she either didn’t serve it or only served it to you. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
Although some hosts insist that you only bring one extra guest, I am from the more the merrier school. There’s always room for one more, an extra chair and extra dish, even if I have to wash some of the dishes and utensils by hand to recycle. After all, the holidays are a time for giving of yourself and your time, and if your door is open, open your heart as well.
Until next week…kisses.