Can you hear it? Listen close…that faint sound of exuberance mixed with a groan of relief? It is mothers, grandmothers and/or mother figures in your house, your neighborhood, your community and your life and across the country waiting for their collective day of appreciation, Mother’s Day.

Yes, Mother’s Day comes but once a year, but it should be the punctuation of a long, long 364-day run-on sentence that sums up what your mother means to you. It’s about loving who she is and in spite of who she is not.

So this Mother’s Day, if you haven’t made some elaborate plan already, I propose you think small. Yes, you read that right! It all begins with your intention and playing your part in making a memory. Remember, sometimes focusing on the little things means more than you know.

Right now, take a moment to reflect on who you are and what your mother has done to make you, and your loved ones, who you/they are: education, discipline, encouragement, love, patience…I mean really think about it. Then commit those thoughts to a card, handwritten note or to memory.

On Sunday, wake up with a smile in your heart, roll over, walk down the hall or pick up the phone and simply say, “Thank you.” Then let the floodgate open for the love and appreciation to flow.

Dads, if it is not already part of your modus operandi, give your wives a day of pampering. Yes, a spa would be lovely, but taking the garbage out, doing the laundry–and putting it away too!–defusing sibling arguments and generally making the Sunday pre-week routine happen as if by magical elves can feel like a hot-stone massage, seaweed facial and a paraffin pedicure all in one. Yes, really!

What to eat on this day? Again, think small. Breakfast in bed is traditional and can involve the whole family. Heart-shaped pancakes, eggs Benedict, fresh-squeezed juice, fruit and her favorite coffee.

But say she just wants an hors d’oeuvre. Make the whole day little bites: mini quiches in the morning, soup shooters and mini grilled cheese for lunch, a surprise high tea in the afternoon with petite sandwiches and a small smorgasbord of finger foods for dinner. Don’t worry about how your manly hands will prepare all of that. There are tons of delicious frozen options at your favorite grocery store.

Can’t or don’t want to cook? Fine. This is New York City. Every place in town has a Mother’s Day meal. Find the one that she likes and make it happen, captain! ‘Nough said!

On a personal note, I want to thank my mother for her love, her passion for education and her resilience under adversity. I love you. I also want to wish a very happy Mother’s Day to my friends Marjorie and Dana on this, their first of many more to come.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Enjoy, get eating and thanks for reading!

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