October may be Breast Cancer Awareness Month, but so far it’s been all about the men. What dashing, eligible bachelor has moved back into our midst? What well-known man-about-town is throwing in the towel and moving south of the border, where the winters are warm and the drinks are cold? What fairly handsome hunk ran across the living room wearing nothing but a wet Speedo at an end-of-season pool party? (Uh, you were supposed to change first and then enter the living room for hors d’oeuvres).

Dressed much more appropriately and staying close to home was Father Darryl Farrar James as the wardens, vestry and people of Grace Episcopal Church gathered for his institution as its 21st rector. Presiding over the event was the Rt. Rev. Lawrence C. Provenzano, bishop of Long Island. Followers from all across the country came to pay tribute, including the James family from Egg Harbor, N.J.; his mother, Rainey James, in from Bridgeport, Conn.; Father Martini Shaw, up from Philadelphia; Father Terrance Lee and wife, the Rev. Violet Dees, in from Queens; and Lucille McEwen, in from Harlem. May the peace and blessings of the Lord be with you all.

Not wearing a Speedo or being instituted but a man just the same is avid reader Rob Lowe who wants us all to know that the Metropolitan Black Bar Association Law and Religion Committee is presenting a workshop called “Navigating the Waters: How to Protect Your House of Worship from Liability.” The panel discussion, which will include the Hon. George Bundy Smith, will focus on protecting your sermons, choir and dance ministries against copyright violation; renovating/expanding the sanctuary; forming community development corporations; taxes; the legal responsibilities of trustees, deacons and youth leaders; and more.

Considered a must-attend free legal education seminar for ministry leaders and the attorneys who represent them, the event will take place on Saturday, Oct. 29 from 9 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. at the Harlem State Office Building. RSVP to J. Machelle Sweeting at LR@mbbanyc.or or (718) 757-5724.

Men of all occupations, sizes and opinions have been seen taking advantage of the Harlem Oktoberfest, which is offering a special at various flower shops around town. Now through Oct. 31, $20.11 will get a special bouquet for that special lady at the following places: Franz James Floral Boutique, 114th Street and Eighth Avenue; Harlem Flo Floral Atelier, 122nd Street and Eighth Avenue; and Katrina Parris Flowers, 120th Street and Seventh Avenue.

While you are bringing the flowers, you may as well bring the wine, as Harlem Vintage is joining in the fun. Take 20.11 percent off any bottle of wine priced at $25 or more. Is this all too much to take in? Feeling a little stressed (wine and flowers!)? EG Bodyworks, located at 114th Street and Eighth Avenue, is offering a 30-minute massage for $20.11.

Alternatively, you may need some extra vitamins-stop by Karrot Health Food, where they have multivitamins for both men and women for, you guessed it, $20.11. Most importantly, don’t forget to breathe. Bikram Yoga East at 4 E. 116th St., Brownstone Fitness at 157 W. 118th St. and Land Yoga at 114th Street and Eighth Avenue are all offering yoga classes, including a free towel and mat. Check for individual offerings, but they all costs $20.11.

Last but certainly not least, the Harlem Skin Clinic at 2116 Eighth Ave. has a holistic organic skin food that’s good for the soul-and it’s only $20.11.

With costs beginning at $20.11, and not just for the month of October, the Posh Paws Grooming Salon offers a dog walking and grooming service for your pooch. Located at 2121 Eighth Ave., they service breeds from small to large and include clipping of nails and ears. They also provide pet supplies and natural holistic dog and cat food. For more information, call (212) 662-7674. Who says Harlem doesn’t provide any services?

The South African Consulate General, together with the Manhattan Chamber of Commerce, hosted a wine tasting and networking reception in celebration of South African Heritage Month at the consulate office.

Meanwhile, the African nation of Nigeria celebrated its 51st anniversary of independence with a parade down Lenox Avenue. The parade included representatives from all of the nations highlighted by drummers, dancers and marchers dressed in their traditional garb. The nation also celebrated with a down-home street fair in Dag Hammarskjold Park, and you had to be there to get the Zizi experience. Zizi caters only the finest events-none are too small or too big-providing the tastiest beef shish kabob, chicken drumsticks and whole fish with just a dash of spice.

Congratulations to Inez Mack, who just became a grandmother. Happy birthday to Eleanor Gore and Louise Jap Williams, who is hosting the throwdown to end all throwdowns-but more on that next time.

Until next week…kisses.